Pain is an impermanent state. One wallows in it, internalises it, learns all possible lessons and then gets on with the business of life.
helps highlight what needs to be
chucked out or retained
What surprises is not the pain, but the response it elicits from others. Some insist on giving you more, some help you see the truth and some look so disappointed at my exit from a transition phase.
as much as joy or pain
The only threat I perceive in life is never to have known pain – and consequently never know trust, joy and care. Yet, celebrations of pain are a hyperbole, only to make it a little more bearable.