A chat with Human Defynd
- Who are you, where you do live and what do you presently do?
I am a coach and trainer by profession, writer by choice and a banker in a previous avatar. You can call me a multi-potentialite and a piece still in transition. A lot more is yet to come. I live in Gurgaon, and work with BPOs, NGOs and women’s groups.
- How did you end up doing what you do and what has your journey been like?
Well, my story is similar to many others – I quit a corporate job for XXXX reasons, and started on my own. On the other side of the fence, I think I am doing much more on different planes, than I could think about doing in a defined role.
- Other than your work, what do you really like to do? Other than that thing, what else do you like to do?
Writing is something that draws me in – on any platform or subject, and I give in to the bug. I plan to incorporate reading and writing into the next venture, so that it becomes work, not a hobby.
Other than that, I would like to revive painting and folk art as hobbies. I dabbled with it a long time ago.
- What do you think are your goals in life?
My chief goal is to live a fully authentic life, without compromising on values. It will bring different forces and actions into play – like a venture to help animals (read street dogs), an outfit to impart practical management education to students (other than text book gyan).
- How do you define happiness? How do you find happiness?
I pursue satisfaction, not happiness and I find it in a job well done.
- In your wildest dreams, if not your present occupation, what would you have liked to do?
Be a full time writer.
- Can you share one (or more) extra (or ordinary) thing / incident about your life which is fairly fascinating?
I don’t know if it is fascinating – but I always made my own choices in life. I am not the most popular person in circles, as my choices often leave a few feeling powerless. People like to think they influenced you, and they are deprived of that satisfaction.
- One (or more) book / movie you think everybody should read / see?
Ayn Rand shows different dimensions of existence in her books. One need not always go with her main protagonist. If you find the stand extreme or too idealistic, choose a middle path, but the books delineate what is the bottom, middle and upper. ‘Atlas Shrugged’ sums up her philosophy. It still gives me goosebumps to read her description of failing organizations, as I have seen it happening in the last two decades. The book was written long before that, in a different country, but captures ground reality so well.
‘Five Languages of Love’ by Gary Chapman and ‘The Road Less Travelled’ by Scott M. Peck help a lot on the personal front.
- Your life’s mantra(s) – something that you live by?
Actions speak louder than words. (Writing is action for me, not just playing with words 🙂 )