On the Other Side of Pain

The pain that I speak about is about being alone, while speaking on any women oriented subject. Women’s groups go silent if a controversial issue is raised. Some come forward to say that they are in the group for relaxation and entertainment, and horrible things do not happen to everybody. Why talk about it, or post disturbing stuff?

It is living in denial, but silence is a choice that women across the world have exercised. They cannot be denied that choice either, even if it harmed their own interest. The #MeToo movement felt like ejection from the cloud, and being thrown out on the other side.

It is a singularly unique experience, as I see the futility of speaking up. Words without action do not mean anything. Words are meant to inspire action. What have I been doing so far? Playing around with words and poem meters, seeking approval from self-proclaimed experts and hailing myself as creative? The only purpose that writing serves is to be an outlet, but I failed miserably, if I have not been able to influence or inspire a single person.

The next thought that strikes is – Do I have to pat my own ego with superlative ideas of being influential? Why can’t I live a humdrum life with my daily routine, and some ‘creative satisfaction’ on the side? It will lessen the pain, even if I die a nameless and obscure death?

I find myself on the ‘other side of the cloud’, probably in process of entering another one – the pain of obscurity.


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8 thoughts on “On the Other Side of Pain

  1. This post leaves me thoughtful. I’ve skirted the edge of the #Me too movement. Most of the post I have read recently have either been from women with first world angst jumping on the bandwagon to complain about sexist remarks, or from smug men who want to get in on the act by proudly proclaiming their guilt (“I have looked lewdly at women passing by, I have made sexist jokes, I have displayed sexist behaviour”), while serious crimes are being freely committed against women throughout the world, every day, while humanity looks on. I don’t care if a man wolf-whistles at me in the street (not that it’s likely these days 🙂 ), I just want the real suffering to stop.
    I could have joined the movement; spoken up about the constant acts of rape and beatings I suffered in my teens, but I chose not to, not because I can’t speak of these things – that isn’t a problem for me – but because I fear that particular movement may be counter-productive. Too many people are joining in for the wrong reasons. Also, I want to put across a message of survival and recovery. I want us to gain the respect of men. We will not be attacked if we are respected.
    However, I maintain that words are powerful; used well, they have the ability to change people’s opinions, preconceptions and behaviour. Please don’t ever doubt it.

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    1. Well said, Jane. Those that join a cause for their own benefit and not for the benefit of all involved weaken the impact. You pointed out the perfect intent for what’s happened and what’s happening and that is we want to be respected.

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      1. We need to teach our sons and daughters true values, that they may respect themselves and others. In countries where women are the most down-trodden, they’re showing a brave fighting spirit, but it’s hard to defeat the patriarchy, and dangerous to try. Having said that, many men in those countries have respect for women.

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      1. I’ve done my share of mindless chattering. Now I try to make the words into art. I believe that the right words at the right time can change lives.
        Sometimes it only takes a single sentence. I know of a man who had been in the grip of addiction for many years. One day, an old school friend walked past him in the street, as he sat, blearily begging for money. The friend glanced his way, said “Oh, so you’re still doing that…” and walked on.
        Those few words shocked the addict so much that he went into recovery. He now travels around giving talks to schools and colleges.

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